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DeadlyWhispers Owner
Posts : 588 Join date : 2010-04-17 Age : 32 Location : The land of polar bears and maple syrup. ♥
| Subject: Homophobia. Sat May 22, 2010 1:52 pm | |
| [Wall of text following. If you read it I'll love you even more xD]
I truly really extremely HATE it.
I won't put the person's name in here, because some people in this forum might know him, well. He's related to me and I love him SO damn much. But that's all I can possibly say.
He's been down lately, really down. He's been crying at school for no reason, isolating himself a LOT (Which he did before but now it's worse) and he had told me a few months back that he was bi. I was totally cool with it, because I knew that he was xD and I love him all the same, I mean... I, myself am quite unsure of my own sexuality, I'm in no place to judge. So I told him "NICE IT'S COOL YOU FINALLY TELL ME! 8DDDDD" and the conversation kept going normally with normal "How was your day" subject.
A month ago, he had a girlfriend. They went out for 2 weeks, he dumped her. He didn't want to talk to me about it, but she did... just now...
She told me that he told her he was gay. He was just pretending to be bi so that his family (Who is also mine, by the way XD) would leave him alone.
I cried.
It's true that ever since he's born, he's always been the outcast and everyone would pick on him, I'd tell them to stop all the time. Some family members (his side of the family) would call him a faggot, even to this day. They'd never go to his birthday parties, they'd never be there for him.
They still aren't.
It saddens me that he's hiding all the pain, anger, rejection he's going through to not worry me or worry my mom. I can't stop crying. I adore him to death and everyone just picks on him. He's depressed/suicidal enough as it is... he doesn't need this shit.
My question is, why? Why do people have the need to always pick on people who are homosexual, bisexual etc.. ? Here is a little copy/paste of my Facebook thing because I'm too lazy to write it -SHOT-
"People should be allowed to be happy with a person of their own sex. Since when is love illegal? since when is it wrong to like someone of their own gender?
apparently it's since forever. People should wake up and realize that homophobia isn't the way to go. Accept your children the way they are. You feed them, raise them, you birth them, you love them. But then when they tell you they're in love with someone their own gender. You freak out and tell them they're worthless. WHY? WHY? You loved them before."
I wanted to keep writing but then people commented on it.
What I wanted to say was
It's not like they've changed. They're the same. They still love you, they still want you to look at them the same way you did before. All they want is your acceptance, but then you go and freak out on them because YOU did not want this? YOU want some grandchildren? Pretty selfish of you now, isn't it? You should know that there is lots of people that are willing to give up their children because they can't take care of them. What, you'll say that adopting is bad now? or you'll say that having 2 parents of the same sex isn't as having 2 parents of different gender? You're wrong. From what I've seen (and sorta experienced) having 2 parents of the same gender is exactly the same. Also, they love you twice as much. I'm serious. I /KNOW/ what I'm talking about.
People should stop the hate.
We're all humans, and as far as I know, people fall in love with HUMANS. Not with what they have between their legs. | |
| | | Ostakakan
Posts : 80 Join date : 2010-04-18 Location : Iceland
| Subject: Re: Homophobia. Sat May 22, 2010 4:50 pm | |
| I couldn't agree with you more. :/ I don't get it, although I haven't seen many people that are very homophobic since my country is rather open to these things. I have to admit that I'm not that sure of my sexuality either but I know my family would support me no matter what. It's so terrible that people are acting like this! They're so mean. >.< I hope he finds happiness with a man and that his family learns to accept it. | |
| | | Newien
Posts : 48 Join date : 2010-05-09 Age : 39 Location : Netherlands
| Subject: Re: Homophobia. Sat May 22, 2010 5:21 pm | |
| Because *most* people need scapegoats to make them feel better about themselves, that's how pathetic our society educates us to be.. It's the same reason alot of people would laugh at handicapped people or walk by if someone gets beat up or mugged.. Me, me me. Remember though that not EVERYONE is like that, you just have to find the gems in the dirt.. There are good people that can be tolerant of one another, you just have to find them, he's lucky to atleast have you and I'm glad you're one of the diamonds ^^ Funny thing, that last quote..; Yamiko said almost the same thing on me @ skype the other day.. scary! | |
| | | Yamiko
Posts : 740 Join date : 2010-04-18 Age : 31 Location : The Netherlands
| Subject: Re: Homophobia. Sat May 22, 2010 6:22 pm | |
| - Quote :
- We're all humans, and as far as I know, people fall in love with HUMANS. Not with what they have between their legs.
That's my girl! 8D No seriously, I had a discussion with Newien about this subject a while ago. I am always saying the same thing, and people being bullied because of their sexuality makes me wanna kill someone. My sister is what you'd call "a lesbian", my uncle from Italy came to Holland to marry his husband (YES GAY MARRIAGE IS LEGAL IN HOLLAND! WHICH IS LIKE, THE BEST THING ABOUT THIS COUNTRY! 8D) And one of my best friends is "lesbian/bisexual" too. And I know alot of other people like that, so maybe it's somehow easier for me to understand but still. Love is love. And true love, can NEVER in ANY case be wrong. I just don't believe that. Love is like the only thing in the world that is NEVER wrong, so people talking about homosexuality like it's a disease make me sick. Literally. And it's actually getting better nowadays. When my grandma died and we were sorting out her things, my sister found an old book about sexuality. In it was a paragraph about homosexuality. It was about homosexuality as a disease, what causes it, and how to CURE it. I seriously felt like throwing up. To be honest, I don't even really believe in homosexuality. I have never considered myself straight. I have been madly in love with guys, even with a teacher (the guy was 31, I was 15), but I think I have been in love with a girl too. And I do feel attracted to girls the same way as to boys. That'd make me bisexual right? Well I am not. Nor am I straight, or a lesbian. I am human. And like Jessy said, I fall in love with other humans. I love them for their personality. For what's inside of them. If it were about the thing between their legs then I would definitely be a lesbian because I think penises are scary. O.o But that doesn't change the fact that I have been in love with guys too. And even with an older guy. So to me, gender is like age. It's not THAT important. It's more convenient to fall in love with someone of the opposite gender, like it's convenient to fall in love woth someone of your own age. Mostly because of what other people will say. I don't tell this a lot of people, because most of them will look at me differently. I even experienced girls who were afraid of me when I told them that I like boys and girls equally. Like it'd mean I'd rape every girl I come across or something. O.o I really can't understand it, to me it's just normal. If a friend tells me he or she is in love, and I were to guess woth who, my first question would always be: "Male or female?" Something else I hate is when people are scared to admit that they like certain things because they're scared they'd look "gay" if they'd admit. I know boys who are afraid to wear pink for that reason. Girls who are afraid to say they think a girl's beautiful. There is this girl in my school who is really gorgeous, and the other day when I saw her I said to my friend. "She's so beautiful..." Some other girl who was sitting near us looked at me with a disgusted expression and she was like. "Eww, how can you say such a thing?!" So I asked her: "Then don't you think she's beautiful?" Her reaction: "Well, ofcourse. She is. But I wouldn't SAY it like that! Eww! I'm not a lesbian or something!" She said the word "lesbian" like it was something repulsive. Please note that I didn't feel anything for the pretty girl. It's just that she's beautiful. >.> | |
| | | Mitsuki
Posts : 177 Join date : 2010-04-27 Age : 29 Location : Limburg, the Netherlands
| Subject: Re: Homophobia. Wed May 26, 2010 4:03 pm | |
| Omg O.o Why are people always doing so difficult about homosexuality. Love is love, why don't they just accept it? I totally agree with what everyone has said. I either don't know if I like boys or girls. That's because I've never been in love with someone but if I think that a girl is pretty, I'll say that loud, there's no one who will look like I'm weird or something. The same thing if I see a boy who's pretty. A few months ago, a teacher asked who thoughts that homosexuality was forbidden. Only one boy in our class thought that. He said "God has made the man to love the woman, and the woman to love the man" but I don't believe that. You love the person you love, it doens't make sense which gender. | |
| | | Yamiko
Posts : 740 Join date : 2010-04-18 Age : 31 Location : The Netherlands
| Subject: Re: Homophobia. Thu May 27, 2010 1:43 am | |
| Yeah, but there's a lot of Christians who are against it. My sister's ex-girlfriend had a really hard time telling her parents that she was in love with my sister at the time, since her family, and the entire village where she lived was extremely religious. They were like OMG YOU'RE GAY! GOD HATES YOU NOW! YOU'LL GO TO HELL! D8 | |
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